Today my facebook status goes like this, "You never really know a man until you understand things from his point of view, until you climb into his skin and walk around in it." I love this quote because it is so true. Think about it for a minute........................Okay STOP your minute is up. My turn now.
My take on it. Think of a time in your life when you heard something about someone. Could be anything a cancer diagnosis, their child getting in trouble, a family arguing over stupid meaningless crap. You think about their situation in your head and either think or say to someone else, "I would never do that if I was in that situation." Or, "I think they should do this or that." You think you have all the answers for that person or family. Well, I am here to tell you that you don't. You never know what you would do in any situation until it slaps YOU upside the head. You never know until you walk in another persons skin so shut up!
I remember when Dave and Katie told us she was going to have a baby and people told us it wasn't a big deal. Now looking back it wasn't as bad as we thought at the time but at that time it was devastating for us. Surely not the way you picture your child starting out. I got so mad at people telling me, in there little chuckling voice, "it's no big deal it happens to everyone" then I began saying to them, "ya, it isn't a big deal because it isn't happening to you." Turns out Hunter was and still is one of the best things that ever happened to us all! We just had to get through it our way and realize it ourselves. You never know until you walk in another persons skin so shut up.
I also think back on the years I was a stay at home mom. It sure wasn't then, nor is it now, the most popular thing to do. The snide comments I would get from people, including family, "You have no idea what it is like to have to work full time and be in the real world." Seriously? Well, probably not but my kids are wearing Target jeans and not $100 brand name jeans, plus they have me. Back then I was a nice, sweet, quiet person who allowed people to speak to me like that and walk all over me. I allowed people to take advantage of me because "I stayed home and did nothing all day." What an idiot I was! Not anymore. I still stay home all day now and I am proud of it plus I have no kids at home, wonder how much that pisses people off? Don't really care! If I get anymore snipe comments from anyone believe me they are going to know where I stand and they are going to know they are not going to talk to me like that ever again. Even back when the kids were little I was in pain I just never told anyone. Sadly it isn't like anyone would have cared then because they sure don't care now. You never know until you walk in another persons skin so shut up!
Since I have become ill, to the point of where illness controls my life, it has helped me even more to realize I do not have the answers for anyone or their situation. I can't fix their problems. I can be there, I can listen, but I cannot fix them. Hell, I can't even fix my own issues so how am I going to fix anyone else? What I do? I always think to myself, "You never know until you walk in another person skin so shut up Dianne!" Seems to be working fine for me. Now if everyone could learn that what a world this could be.
Yup I'm Back On The Steroids And It isn't Pretty So Watch Out! I am getting meaner by the minute. lol